The criteria of self-esteem | BUILD SELF-ESTEEM

Self esteem is a basic psychological need.

– It is an intimate experience; it resides in the core of one’s being. It is what I think and feel about myself. It is not what someone else thinks or feels about me. I can be loved by family and friends but not love myself. I can be admired by my associates and yet regard myself as worthless. ( Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D.) –

The practice of living consciously:

respect for the facts of reality without evasion or denial
to be present to what we are doing while we are doing it
seek to understand whatever bears on our interests, values and goals
be aware both of the world external to self and also the world within

The practice of self-acceptance:

to be self-accepting means to own and experience, without denying or disowning, the reality of our thoughts, emotions, and actions
to be respectful and compassionate towards ourselves, even when we do not admire or enjoy some of our feelings or decisions
to refuse to be in an adversarial or rejecting relationship to ourselves

The practice of self-responsibility:

to be self-responsible is to recognize that we are the author of our choices and actions
that we must be the ultimate source of our own fulfillment
that no one exists to serve us
that no one is coming to make our life right for us, or make us happy , or to give us self-esteem

The practice of self-assertion:

to be self-assertive is to honor our wants and needs and look for their appropriate forms of expression in reality
to treat ourselves with decent respect in our encounters with others
to be willing to be who we are and allow others to see it
to stand up for our convictions, values, and feelings

The practice of living purposefully:

to live purposefully is to take responsibility for identifying or goals
to perform the actions that will allow us to achieve them
to keep ourselves on track and moving toward their fulfillment

The practice of living with integrity:

to live with integrity is to have principles of behavior to which we remain loyal in action
to have congruence between what we know, what we profess, and what we do
to keep our promises and honor our commitments -to walk our talk!

Of all the judgement we pass in our life, none is more important than the judgement we pass on ourselves. Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D.